Meet John

John Pendal

Hi, my name is John and I’m excited to be associated with Thriving Autistic.

I work as a life coach helping people who feel like outsiders. There’s nothing wrong with being an outsider, but there might be other areas of your life where you are dissatisfied and want to talk them over with someone who "gets you".

I am relatable rather than aspirational. During my life, I have experienced negative thoughts, gay conversion therapy, coeliac disease, back surgery and identify as autistic. I have also become the only British winner of the “International Mr Leather” contest in Chicago and had a ten-year career as a stand-up comedian which has taken me around the world.

I want to help other people, especially those who feel like an outsider. You may feel that way because of your gender or sexuality, neurodiversity, health diagnosis or just a feeling of "not fitting in". I will listen and ask questions in total confidence and without judgement.

I specialise in coaching for self-acceptance and happiness. My work includes helping newly diagnosed autistic folk work out what that means, discovering where masking ends and you begin, and how to change your life to better fit your neurology.

Coaching can help with all areas of your life. I have helped clients discover who they are, what their passions are, find their voice, achieve goals, accept themselves, grow in confidence, be happier and change their lives.

You are welcome to wear dark glasses during calls, have the camera turned off, switch to text chat, fidget, info-dump or anything else that will make you feel more comfortable.

Qualifications & Memberships:

  • FAA Level 2 Award in First Aid for Mental Health
  • Accredited coach with Animas Centre for Coaching

To contact John, please email

Specialisation: Life coaching for self-acceptance and happiness

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